Phallo Finder



(websites, health insurance, support groups, blogs, photos, recovery space, books etc.)



Looking for an employer who offers trans inclusive health!? Check out the Corporate Equality Index. Each year the HRC releases a comprehensive list of hundreds of companies (609 major businesses in 2018) in which they use a multi-level point system across 10 smaller criteria fields. Within these categories, CRITERIA 2C is really where you are looking to see a score of 10 pts to know that they offer at a minimum, 75k over coverage in transition-related surgery. There is also an app you can download as well (HRC Foundation’s Buyer’s Guide) if you’d just like to find an employer’s score. However, a score of a 100 is always a win, and anything less than that and you’ll need to see exactly which category they are not hitting the benchmark for. This is actually how I found out that my employer offered coverage! It is worth noting that phalloplasty that includes microsurgery, typically ends up costing multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars. So if your particular health insurance is capping at the $75,000 mark, your surgeon may not be able to accept your insurance. Or they may be able to work out a single case agreement.

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Yahoo groups are a great place to start your research. You’ll find a very large community to share dialogue with on the topic of lower surgery and as well as navigating the process itself. When I first started digging up info on lower surgery in late 2005 I was directed to three different Yahoo groups. All three are still going strong more than a decade later. What does that mean? It means that those archives are MASSIVE! Not only are there a couple thousand guys in some of these groups, but also thousands of photos, hundreds of links to other resources, medical journals, studies, blogs, etc. The only downside to Yahoo (and it is a big one) is that the platform is not even close to being user friendly. I actually hate navigating through anything Yahoo, it has never felt user friendly to me. That being said, it’s the foundation of my “lower surgery education” and I’m super super grateful for all the hard work that’s gone into creating, maintaining, and moderating these groups. There are 6 groups that I would like to share. FYI, you’ll need to create a free Yahoo account to access these groups. These are all “restricted” groups which means the actual group content will not be visible to you unless you have been added by a moderator. The highlighted website links below will direct you to the group description and there is a “JOIN GROUP” button right on that page.

  • THE DECIDING LINE: This is an “entry level” group for guys that are contemplating surgery but are still undecided on exactly what procedures they would like to pursue that will meet their needs.
  • FTM METOIDIOPLASTY: This is a peer discussion group for those that are ready to seriously plan for metoidioplasty. This is not a group for those very early on in transition.
  • FTM PHALLOPLASTY: This is a peer discussion group for those that are ready to seriously plan for phalloplasty. This is not a group for those very early on in transition.
  • FINANCES & SURGERY FTM: This group is specifically for Trans* Men seeking discussions on how to pay for surgery.


There are numerous helpful Facebook groups that have a wide variety of focused topics on transition and surgery. What I value about the Facebook platform in regards to support groups is that it’s a clean interface, it’s intuitive, it’s immediate, and very easy to search by keywords. The overall experience is enjoyable because of how easy it is to navigate and interact with. I can usually find what I’m looking for quickly and it feels more personal than the Yahoo groups. However, the personal factor can be a downside for those that are stealth or just looking for a bit more privacy. In that case, Yahoo groups are probably your best bet, or creating a Facebook page under a different name. Most of the groups that I’m going to give a mention to here are listed as “SECRET” status, which means they are invsible and unsearchable. The only way to find these groups is to know someone that’s a member and have them send a add request for you to join. Then some of those groups require a new member application be filled out and reviewed before addmitance to the group is allowed. Nonetheless, I’m going to name some of the groups so that you at least know what’s out there and available. If you contact me directly I can assist with potentially getting you into these groups or directing you to one that would be a good fit.

  • YOUTUBE: PHALLOPLASTY (secret group) – Phallo-Related Video Content
  • ALT PHALLOPLASTY (secret group)
  • MADE IN MONTREAL (secret group)
  • PATIENTS OF DR CURTIS CRANE (secret group)
  • JACK’S PHALLOPLASTY (secret group) – ALT/Chen

The following four groups are solely for those actively working towards meta or phallo (see respective group) or those that are already post-op.

  • FTM METOIDIOPLASTY (secret group)
  • PHALLOPLASTY FTM (secret group)
  • LIFE BEYOND LOWER SURGERY (secret group)

*** For access to any of the above “secret” groups, you can contact me on my public Facebook profile: Meiko Elias for an application to be considered for membership.


  • Partners Lovers & Caretakers of Dudes Having Surgery (secret group)

*** For access to any of the above “secret” groups, you can contact me on my public Facebook profile: Meiko Elias so I can link you up to one of their moderators for membership.


There is weeks if not months worth of reading just a click away within these links. If you are interested in learning about other guys’ firsthand experiences with lower surgery, blogs are the way to learn. Asking questions directly to post-op guys is helpful too, but reading entire blogs is how you really understand what the surgical process looks like as well as how you respect the folks that have walked this road before you and helped pave the way. But also their intention to write these things down in order to help minizine repeat questions. Many many men have take the time to document and detail their experiences in very open and vulnerable ways in order to benefit the next guys. If you are willing to truly take the time to read, you will learn a GREAT deal. Below you will find links to some. As I come across more I will continue to expand this post whenever I find new resources. So if you like, bookmark this link and check back occasionally. This is a work in progress.


HEALTHY TRANS: Surgery Consultation Cheat Sheet  (Click on: “RESOURCES” then “SURGERY CONSULT QUESTIONS”)


Quest House – LOCATION: San Francisco Bay Area

Serving patients of: Dr Chen, Buncke Clinic, & Brownstein Crane Surgical Services

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Traveling T4T Caregiving:




My playlist of 100+ videos of folks sharing their phalloplasty experiences via Youtube:



  • Hung Jury – Testimonies of Genital Surgery
  • Below The Belt – Genital Talk By Men of Trans Experience
  • Phallus Palace – Female to Male Transsexuals ~ by Dean Kotula


  • Girls Lost
  • Three Generations
  • 52 Tuesdays
  • Zerophilia
  • Gendernuats
  • Venus Boys (drag)
  • Tomboy
  • Pariah


  • It’s Not About The Sex


  1. I have a date scheduled with crane and would be interested in getting into that patients of Curtis crane secret fb group. Please email me to help me with that. Thanks! (I’m going to put a fake name below for privacy reasons)


    1. Hi
      You are doing amazing work sharing all these precious information, thank you.
      I have booked alt phalloplasty with dr crane for may, after reading your posts I realized that forearm might be better option for me, I didn’t considere it before because of the evident scar and size of my arm cause I am quite skinny too, do you mind if I ask you how big your phallo turned out? Thank you for your help


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