THE PHALLOPLASTY RESOURCES YOU’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR
ALL IN ONE PLACE
(websites, health insurance, support groups, blogs, photos, recovery space, books etc.)
- Phalloplasty – FTM Surgery Network <— MASSIVE RESOURCE !
- Transbucket <— Surgery Photos
- Transguys <— Wide scope of trans male topics, including surgery
Looking for an employer who offers trans inclusive health!? Check out the Corporate Equality Index. Each year the HRC releases a comprehensive list of hundreds of companies (609 major businesses in 2018) in which they use a multi-level point system across 10 smaller criteria fields. Within these categories, CRITERIA 2C is really where you are looking to see a score of 10 pts to know that they offer at a minimum, 75k over coverage in transition-related surgery. There is also an app you can download as well (HRC Foundation’s Buyer’s Guide) if you’d just like to find an employer’s score. However, a score of a 100 is always a win, and anything less than that and you’ll need to see exactly which category they are not hitting the benchmark for. This is actually how I found out that my employer offered coverage! It is worth noting that phalloplasty that includes microsurgery, typically ends up costing multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars. So if your particular health insurance is capping at the $75,000 mark, your surgeon may not be able to accept your insurance. Or they may be able to work out a single case agreement.
YAHOO GROUPS ~
Yahoo groups are a great place to start your research. You’ll find a very large community to share dialogue with on the topic of lower surgery and as well as navigating the process itself. When I first started digging up info on lower surgery in late 2005 I was directed to three different Yahoo groups. All three are still going strong more than a decade later. What does that mean? It means that those archives are MASSIVE! Not only are there a couple thousand guys in some of these groups, but also thousands of photos, hundreds of links to other resources, medical journals, studies, blogs, etc. The only downside to Yahoo (and it is a big one) is that the platform is not even close to being user friendly. I actually hate navigating through anything Yahoo, it has never felt user friendly to me. That being said, it’s the foundation of my “lower surgery education” and I’m super super grateful for all the hard work that’s gone into creating, maintaining, and moderating these groups. There are 6 groups that I would like to share. FYI, you’ll need to create a free Yahoo account to access these groups. These are all “restricted” groups which means the actual group content will not be visible to you unless you have been added by a moderator. The highlighted website links below will direct you to the group description and there is a “JOIN GROUP” button right on that page.
- THE DECIDING LINE: This is an “entry level” group for guys that are contemplating surgery but are still undecided on exactly what procedures they would like to pursue that will meet their needs.
- FTM METOIDIOPLASTY: This is a peer discussion group for those that are ready to seriously plan for metoidioplasty. This is not a group for those very early on in transition.
- FTM PHALLOPLASTY: This is a peer discussion group for those that are ready to seriously plan for phalloplasty. This is not a group for those very early on in transition.
- FINANCES & SURGERY FTM: This group is specifically for Trans* Men seeking discussions on how to pay for surgery.
FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUPS:
There are numerous helpful Facebook groups that have a wide variety of focused topics on transition and surgery. What I value about the Facebook platform in regards to support groups is that it’s a clean interface, it’s intuitive, it’s immediate, and very easy to search by keywords. The overall experience is enjoyable because of how easy it is to navigate and interact with. I can usually find what I’m looking for quickly and it feels more personal than the Yahoo groups. However, the personal factor can be a downside for those that are stealth or just looking for a bit more privacy. In that case, Yahoo groups are probably your best bet, or creating a Facebook page under a different name. Most of the groups that I’m going to give a mention to here are listed as “SECRET” status, which means they are invsible and unsearchable. The only way to find these groups is to know someone that’s a member and have them send a add request for you to join. Then some of those groups require a new member application be filled out and reviewed before addmitance to the group is allowed. Nonetheless, I’m going to name some of the groups so that you at least know what’s out there and available. If you contact me directly I can assist with potentially getting you into these groups or directing you to one that would be a good fit.
- FTM BOTTOM SURGERY DISCUSSION (closed group)
- YOUTUBE: PHALLOPLASTY (secret group) – Phallo-Related Video Content
- ALT PHALLOPLASTY (secret group)
- MADE IN MONTREAL (secret group)
- PATIENTS OF DR CURTIS CRANE (secret group)
- JACK’S PHALLOPLASTY (secret group) – ALT/Chen
- MEDICARE & OTHER HEALTH INSURANCE TRANSGENDER SURGERY INFORMATION (closed group)
The following four groups are solely for those actively working towards meta or phallo (see respective group) or those that are already post-op.
- FTM METOIDIOPLASTY (secret group)
- PHALLOPLASTY FTM (secret group)
- WHAT THE DOCTOR’S DON’T TELL YOU ABOUT PHALLOPLASTY – U.K. (secret group)
- LIFE BEYOND LOWER SURGERY (secret group)
*** For access to any of the above “secret” groups, you can contact me on my public Facebook profile: Meiko Elias for an application to be considered for membership.
FACEBOOK PARTNER SUPPORT GROUPS:
- Partners Lovers & Caretakers of Dudes Having Surgery (secret group)
*** For access to any of the above “secret” groups, you can contact me on my public Facebook profile: Meiko Elias so I can link you up to one of their moderators for membership.
BLOGS & LINKS TO LISTS OF BLOGS:
There is weeks if not months worth of reading just a click away within these links. If you are interested in learning about other guys’ firsthand experiences with lower surgery, blogs are the way to learn. Asking questions directly to post-op guys is helpful too, but reading entire blogs is how you really understand what the surgical process looks like as well as how you respect the folks that have walked this road before you and helped pave the way. But also their intention to write these things down in order to help minizine repeat questions. Many many men have take the time to document and detail their experiences in very open and vulnerable ways in order to benefit the next guys. If you are willing to truly take the time to read, you will learn a GREAT deal. Below you will find links to some. As I come across more I will continue to expand this post whenever I find new resources. So if you like, bookmark this link and check back occasionally. This is a work in progress.
- MyPhalloplasty (RFF: Crane/Chen/Safa/Buncke Clinic)
- Chinchilla Meat (RFF: Crane/Chen)
- FinnTheInFinncible (RFF: London Team)
- Cayden Carter (RFF: Crane)
- Accio-AJ (RFF: Mr Christopher & London Team)
- Another Phalloplasty Blog (RFF: Crane)
- An Experience of Phalloplasty (RFF: London Team)
- FTM Phalloplasty
- This Blog Is About My Dick
- My Pubic Phallo Blog (Pubic: London Team)
- PHALLO BLOGS LIST <—HUGE RESOURCE (Phallo Blogs, Vlogs, Groups, Videos)
- About Phalloplasty (Misc. Info)
- My Phalloplasty Experience (RFF: London Team)
- FTM Bottom Surgery Journey (RFF: Crane)
- FTM Lower Surgery Tagged Posts
- Bottom Surgery Experiences (another resource list)
- I Forgot To Care (Bottom Surgery Tagged Posts)
- Trans Talk (List of of Blogs by Region & Surgeon)
- A (not so) Teenage Transition (RFF: London Team)
- Destroy4Phallo (ALT: Crane)
- The Incredible Me (ALT: Crane)
- Documenting My Lower Surgery (ALT: Crane)
- Masculinity: A Surgical Exploration (ALT: Crane)
- A Guy’s Journey To Wholeness (RFF: Crane)
- I to I (ALT: Chen)
- Thoughts and Journey of a PrettyBoi (Meta: Bowers / RFF Phallo: Salgado)
- Phallo Vumc
- Forearm Phalloplasty
- My Phalloplasty (RFF Stage 1:Crane / Stage 2: Chen)
- CreatingAPenis (RFF w/ Mr Christopher)
- FTMax (RFF)
- Phalloplasty Experience (RFF w/ NYU Team)
- GenderCube (Tumblr) (RFF w/ Chen & Buncke)
HEALTHY TRANS: Surgery Consultation Cheat Sheet (Click on: “RESOURCES” then “SURGERY CONSULT QUESTIONS”)
POST-OP HEALING/RECOVERY HOUSE:
Quest House – LOCATION: San Francisco Bay Area
Serving patients of: Dr Chen, Buncke Clinic, & Brownstein Crane Surgical Services
Traveling T4T Caregiving:
YOUTUBE VIDEOS & VLOGS:
My playlist of 100+ videos of folks sharing their phalloplasty experiences via Youtube:
- Hung Jury – Testimonies of Genital Surgery
- Below The Belt – Genital Talk By Men of Trans Experience
- Phallus Palace – Female to Male Transsexuals ~ by Dean Kotula
- Girls Lost
- Three Generations
- 52 Tuesdays
- Venus Boys (drag)
- It’s Not About The Sex